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Ending a relationship is like squeezing an orange:
Everything comes out, it's messy and leaves a
lingering smell on those who are involved. Unfortunately, some relationships
have to end and there is no real easy way to do it - though there are right
ways and wrong ways.
Moreover, the longer the relationship, the harder it is to break the bonds
created, unless, of course, you are breaking up because there were no real
bonds in the first place.
DUMPING TIPS:
1. Don't drag it out! When it's over, it's over. You're
not doing anyone any favours by delaying the
inevitable when you have already decided to break it off.
2. Be firm, decisive and honest. But being honest does
not preclude being tactful.
3. The best reason to give when asked why the relationship is over is
“the feelings I had for the relationship just aren’t what I had
when we first started.” The focus is on the relationship. You
don’t have to justify how you feeling. It’s just the way you
feel.
4. "Let's be friends." Don’t expect your relationship to
continue as if nothing has occurred between the two of you. Over time this
may change, but be realistic that some awkwardness will mar your relationship
in the short term.
5. Let the “dumpee” have an opportunity
to talk too.
6. Don't do it in a public place. Don't make a scene. On the flip side -
breaking up over the phone, email, IM, ICQ, fax or any medium other than
face-to-face after you have been going out more than two dates is not
classy at all. If you feel the need to write it out on paper, that doesn't
eliminate your face-to-face break up. Refer to rule 5.
7. Don't try to hold on if it's over. That's cruel and unusual punishment.
Refer to rule 4.
8. Try end off on a positive note. It's easier to move on afterward. Try
to focus on the positive aspects and "good times" of the
relationship. You two got together for some reason at the beginning (unless
it was your Aunt Hilda who set you up because you both enjoy doing nothing).
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